Showing posts with label Self-therapy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-therapy. Show all posts

April 12, 2013

Self-Sabotage... Entering Negotiations!

Grand Prismatic Spring in Yellowstone National Park
Self-sabotage is a powerful force... and usually an unconscious one.

You don't feel it coming, except you see the evidence of wreckage in your life. You will see it by its fruits.

The inner Saboteurs residing in our subconscious psyche are always trying to keep us safe, so it's not like they are trying to hurt us.

They are generally trying to help save us from some horrid fate or, in my case, the threat of (perceived) death.  

But the reality is that we can outgrow the wisdom of our Saboteurs. We need different boundaries than the ones they are enforcing. 

Today, I had a "come to Jesus" moment with recognizing some powerful Saboteur energy running my life these days. 



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April 3, 2013

Deconstructing Boundaries: When Fences Become Walls


I'm all about the boundary-setting. I think it's a damn fine idea to draw lines that keep you feeling good in your world. They keep the bad, distracting, yucky stuff out, and create space for all the good stuff you want to cultivate. Not that I draw them perfectly (meh - who does?), but I am definitely willing to draw them.

But... I'm questioning my usual approach to them right now.

I received some energy healing yesterday from the amazing Jo Dunning, and I woke up today feeling really differently (and a little uncomfortable) about how I've been doing this whole boundaries thing in my world.


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March 18, 2013

Fail Spectacularly!

I'm considering a shift in my approach to living my life... something new to try, because my current approach is just not working at this point.

I'm blocked up, beset with fears, anxieties, etc. that just drain the life out of me sometimes and at other times just make is so hard to do that which I want to do.

A lot of those fears are about failure, and the ego hit of failing. The ego hit I give to myself.

Maybe you're something like me?

I was raised to be and have generally been a high achiever, and all that pressure at some point generates a tipping point. At least it has in me.

At some point, it can root itself as fear of failing, fear of making mistakes, fears of not measuring up to other people's (and my own now internalized) standards - inauthentic though they may be.

And that equals fear of risk, taking chances, stepping out of your lines and doing something new that you might, actually, fail at doing.

That has literally terrified me much of my life. And there's a profound deadness somewhere that comes from living that way.

But what would happen if, instead of trying something new with the trepidation that I might fail, I actually decide I'm going to throw myself into things and fail spectacularly?


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