Showing posts with label Pain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pain. Show all posts

August 6, 2013

When I Forget I Am {AWESOME}

You know those moments. When you get upset by some sh... stuff going on in your life, and it feels scary and overwhelming. You disintegrate. It triggers someplace inside that flips you into disempowerment mode.

You totally forget whatever good things you felt and knew about yourself at some (now distant feeling) time in the past, because you sure don't feel that way right now. 

Right? I mean, that happens to you, too... right?! ;-)

So what happens when that happens?

How do you flip out of that?

How do you degauss yourself, set your feathers back to unruffled status, pull your pieces back together into some semblance of wholeness, and move forward?

June 15, 2013

No Pain = No Joy

This all seems like a big 'duh!' now that I've seen it, but that's often how it goes. It only seems obvious after seeing it. And we don't see it until we can see it.

I had a huge personal epiphany yesterday, and it explains so much of why I have a hard time getting joyful about the life experience. It's at least a significant part of why I experience an almost ever-present sense of ennui at some level.


You see, I survived some early trauma in my childhood by making a decision - albeit unconscious - to protect myself from that kind of pain in this life. The thing that happened caused me to feel just this side of obliterated. Overwhelming pain and confusion.

June 9, 2013

I'm not even jealous.

People show you who they truly are and even when it's ugly, it's a huge gift if they show you sooner than later.

When that happens, I'm rarely 'happy' about it. I'm usually sad and angry.

But very quickly, I find myself feeling grateful for it.

When I see them chatting up others, sparkling, having a good time? I'm not even jealous. (And I can lean that way sometimes.)

On the contrary, I know what lies beneath that pretty version of an exterior, and I pity the poor soul who gets wrapped up in someone's projection, who doesn't get to see the truth until they are broadsided it. I've been there, too, and it's far, far worse to know later than sooner. I don't envy them, for they will surely find out for themselves.

No amount of good face, fun personality, intelligent conversation, or successful accomplishment overcomes bad character.

I thank the powers that be every time I am protected by having it shown to me as early as possible before I invest in a person - be that platonic or otherwise. Who needs people of bad character in their lives?

I'll take stellar character over any other quality, any day!

Sadly, it's a characteristic that seems to have gone out of style. What's in style is the 'illusion' of character. Fortunately, for those of true character, being in style has nothing to do with it.

Thank goodness for the good people of good character. Sometimes, they seem as rare as Unicorns, except they actually exist.

Keeping the light on,


September 19, 2012

Tired? Stressed? Sick? LOVE YOUR LIVER!

If you have any level of fatigue or any kind of dysfunction going on with your health, do yourself a huge favor and focus on cleaning your liver.

Y'all:  it's so important.

Certainly, in the ancient system of Traditional Chinese Medicine, the function of the liver is believed to be at the root of health and is the first thing to address when disease or dysfunction appears. 

Here in the United States, we don't have a culture of supporting our liver function. Our medical establishment doesn't understand how to heal it or even support its functions. So, unless it's failing altogether, there's very little medical advice about protecting your liver or healing it. 

It's a big blind spot and it's hurting us, especially in these modern times which stress our bodies so much. 

Without a clean and well functioning liver, you will get sick on some level, your energy will be compromised, your emotional health will be affected, and you cannot really get or stay well. 

Yet, it's one of the easiest things in the body to heal. It regenerates itself beautifully! IF YOU SUPPORT IT.

February 5, 2012

Real Change Takes Real Guts

True, lasting change that goes against the mainstream is hard. The road is rocky and sometimes uncertain. It's lonely. The outcome is not guaranteed.

But when you commit strongly enough to follow through on a vision, you do it because you simply cannot stay where you are. There is nothing to do but move forward into the unknown, find your path, and walk it.

Fear, pain, and discomfort walk alongside for a while. It's just part of the process of breaking through into the new. Don't expect it to be any different.

Just prepare yourself for the challenges that will come, because it's a Hero's and Heroine's journey.

And, when Life calls you this way, know you are made for it.

September 20, 2011

Getting and Giving Support

I had a really raw and vulnerable experience recently that gave me a lot of clarity about showing up for people when they're in pain of some kind.

Somehow, though I was the one in pain, I was able to be present in some way differently than before, and observe the experience in a way that was new to me.  I learned some great things!  I wanted to share my thoughts and conclusions in case it's useful for you, too.

So, here's what I discovered.

The people who cannot yet be with their own pain, cannot be with mine.

There are people who I really, really want to turn to who cannot be with me when I'm in the super raw and painful place.

I'm so vulnerable at that point, and they need to show up right or it's going to hurt more.

And, let's face it, it's not like I don't know they have problems and inconsistencies in how they show up for me.

But... I didn't realize WHY until this last time.

May 5, 2011

Active Gratitude

I've been thinking about a particular person I dated earlier this year who, in that brief time, managed to give me a pretty hefty emotional wound.  There are still days when it crops up at random moments and stings like a scorpion.

The gory details are unimportant, really, because the point is it's just this kind of icky, 'no way to really resolve it to my mind's satisfaction' kind of pain.  There's no additional conversation with this person that will help resolve unanswered questions.  I've thrown some deep down honest conversation at the problem, and his actions and words just don't match.  So... there ya go.  Time to let go.

Time to let go.  But not so easy!


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