Showing posts with label Fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Fear. Show all posts

August 6, 2013

When I Forget I Am {AWESOME}


You know those moments. When you get upset by some sh... stuff going on in your life, and it feels scary and overwhelming. You disintegrate. It triggers someplace inside that flips you into disempowerment mode.

You totally forget whatever good things you felt and knew about yourself at some (now distant feeling) time in the past, because you sure don't feel that way right now. 

Right? I mean, that happens to you, too... right?! ;-)

So what happens when that happens?

How do you flip out of that?

How do you degauss yourself, set your feathers back to unruffled status, pull your pieces back together into some semblance of wholeness, and move forward?



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June 15, 2013

No Pain = No Joy

Joyful.
This all seems like a big 'duh!' now that I've seen it, but that's often how it goes. It only seems obvious after seeing it. And we don't see it until we can see it.

I had a huge personal epiphany yesterday, and it explains so much of why I have a hard time getting joyful about the life experience. It's at least a significant part of why I experience an almost ever-present sense of ennui at some level.

History. 

You see, I survived some early trauma in my childhood by making a decision - albeit unconscious - to protect myself from that kind of pain in this life. The thing that happened caused me to feel just this side of obliterated. Overwhelming pain and confusion.



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April 17, 2013

You're Here On Purpose. (And you can't screw it up.)

You. Me. Everyone and everything... here on purpose. 

That's what I've felt and believed ever since I can remember.

I hear people talk about how you can be "off" purpose or that somehow you can do your life wrong.

And every time I hear it, I know it's not true.

I don't know how I know it. But I know it.

And it's not that I never spin out with worry about whether I'm doing my life "right"... the mind generates worry, and I can be a worrier.

It's that I always come back to that deep touchstone inside that just KNOWS I cannot mess this up, even if my mind likes to spin scary stories.


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April 3, 2013

Deconstructing Boundaries: When Fences Become Walls


I'm all about the boundary-setting. I think it's a damn fine idea to draw lines that keep you feeling good in your world. They keep the bad, distracting, yucky stuff out, and create space for all the good stuff you want to cultivate. Not that I draw them perfectly (meh - who does?), but I am definitely willing to draw them.

But... I'm questioning my usual approach to them right now.

I received some energy healing yesterday from the amazing Jo Dunning, and I woke up today feeling really differently (and a little uncomfortable) about how I've been doing this whole boundaries thing in my world.


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March 18, 2013

Fail Spectacularly!

I'm considering a shift in my approach to living my life... something new to try, because my current approach is just not working at this point.

I'm blocked up, beset with fears, anxieties, etc. that just drain the life out of me sometimes and at other times just make is so hard to do that which I want to do.

A lot of those fears are about failure, and the ego hit of failing. The ego hit I give to myself.

Maybe you're something like me?

I was raised to be and have generally been a high achiever, and all that pressure at some point generates a tipping point. At least it has in me.

At some point, it can root itself as fear of failing, fear of making mistakes, fears of not measuring up to other people's (and my own now internalized) standards - inauthentic though they may be.

And that equals fear of risk, taking chances, stepping out of your lines and doing something new that you might, actually, fail at doing.

That has literally terrified me much of my life. And there's a profound deadness somewhere that comes from living that way.

But what would happen if, instead of trying something new with the trepidation that I might fail, I actually decide I'm going to throw myself into things and fail spectacularly?


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February 5, 2012

Real Change Takes Real Guts

True, lasting change that goes against the mainstream is hard. The road is rocky and sometimes uncertain. It's lonely. The outcome is not guaranteed.

But when you commit strongly enough to follow through on a vision, you do it because you simply cannot stay where you are. There is nothing to do but move forward into the unknown, find your path, and walk it.

Fear, pain, and discomfort walk alongside for a while. It's just part of the process of breaking through into the new. Don't expect it to be any different.

Just prepare yourself for the challenges that will come, because it's a Hero's and Heroine's journey.

And, when Life calls you this way, know you are made for it.


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September 22, 2011

What's Stopping You?


Change.  Self-inflicted, err... self-induced change... and how to uncover what's stopping you from moving forward.  That's today's topic!


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